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The reason I relate to the x-men is the fact that I have a genetic condition call neurofibomin 1, and that can be a host to many other problems.

I mean Neurofibromatosis type I

I don't think I relate to the x-men on any genetic or social level.If anything I'd just like some of their powers.Not a very noble relation.

Well, puberty certainly kicked the living shit out of me. I've always looked insanely young for my age. I had the worst case of acne in my entire high school. I had disgusting metal braces with dark bands on them. I was always hunched over, because of the way I slept as a kid, with my head resting against the bed frame. I hadn't discovered Head and Shoulders yet, so my dandruff was completely uncontrollable. My choice of clothes were ridiculous and I had already outgrown a lot of it. I had no money, no sense of style, I mumbled when I talked, and I was almost completely socially inept. So in a sense, I was very much a mutant.

Somehow I got past all that, and I turned out to be a pretty good looking guy, as I'm told fairly often. But the mentality you grow from that kind of childhood doesn't just go away once you get past it physically, and really, the introversion never goes away. From that point, I spent a good chunk of my young adult life with many chips on my shoulder, and feeling like the world owes me something. I felt girls that used to look at me in disgust, were now beneath me. Girls who were suddenly nice to me, I would give them the cold shoulder. At the time it really felt like sweet justice to turn the tables. Even though I would have acted the same way to girls who looked as bad as I once did, I was still like "fuck those stuck-up shallow bitches."

It took a long time for me to get humbled and well-adjusted. Ultimately, comics like Spider-man and X-men were what made me realize how stupid I was thinking. A lot of my experiences are the same as these characters, and the common theme is that after going through rough childhoods they either got past it and became heroes, or they let it consume them, and they became villains. It had a very profound effect on me, and I'm a lot happier now, because I choose not to be a villain.

I think I initially didn't relate to the X-men, I just thought they were cool and had neat powers. But as I got older I think I more came to relate to their struggle in a world that hates and fears them, and that they are constantly at odds with other mutants like them. As a black kid going to school in a town that was 95% white, I relate to that feeling. And also as a minority pursuing a PhD, I am frequently the only person like me in a room/building/department. So in that way, I think I relate to them.

The reason I relate to the X-Men is because I also have superhuman mutant powers and I fight to protect a world that hates and fears me.

I am an Asian American mallrat who prefers to wear jean shorts, a yellow trench coat, and hoop earrings?

i fire beams of hard light out of my eyes, capable of pushing people out of my way when walking down a street (as long as their facing me) and also getting servers' attention when i'm ready for my bill.

I guess I know how it is to bea bit of an outcast inside but having to blend in on the outside. That sounds pretty precious bit whatever.

Iceman, use this time in your life to make a fresh start. A lot of the things people cared about in high school won't really matter anymore. People are always going to come and go and as Cib (?) said asking what's up with your buddy isnt out of the question (if this is important to you). If you do try not to lead with your emotions too much.

I don't know if you in college or not, if so focus on your studies and school social events. If your interested in meeting new people chat up people you meet at the places you frequent. They may not become your new best friend but it does't hurt to talk casually with people. Remember, keep a positive attitude. We only get one life and it's one worth living for. Try new things or take a trip on your own. For my 31st birthday I took myself to Hawaii for 4 days just for the hell of it and I didnt invite single person. The experience was awesome and i met so many people from different countries and it was funny because they all wanted to take care me because I was by myself.

This is a little more of a personal subject for me but, we all go through a time of feeling lonely.Case in point, I'm the only single one of all my friends (Ive been pretty lucky to still be friends with some of the people I grew up with) and sometimes they plan things with our mutual friends and new friends they've made, the thing is of course they are all married so usually im the odd one out. I tend to end up just passing on the event because it feels awkward hanging with couples I dont know. During a recent outing with one of these friends I felt like I had to get it off my chest why sometimes i dont go and I felt tons better.

Clubbing does suck. I dont mind bars with dance floors cause at least you can grap a table, some drinks and shoot the shit. You cant do that a club.Plus theres always the gross sweaty dude whos all over you, cant dance and wont leave you alone.

A guy who was assimilated into the collective Hive of the Phanlanx

On a note to IcemanDan do what you like to do and if people dont like it they can fuck off plenty others out their that will dig on what you like and how you relate. Plus if you got any decent family members hang and bang with them they should give you the support hell I would say you got a few followers here at the Uncanny X-Cast so chill enjoy life and lets get down to discussing about are favorite mutants.

Thanks a bunch MJ and Hartoke. And no i'm not in college, seems a waste of my time. But thanks for the advice.

Why are all the nice people on the internet? Ha

Iceman, my advice. Go to the club. Get drunk and sweaty. Start grinding on a girl. I've heard they love this.

(if you look at mjstarchilds paragraph about clubbing, my comment might make more sense)

Ahh right i get you now ha.

I've always wondered about the female perspective on random grinding.

Every club is different. They all have a different crowd, different music, different security, and different energy. A lot them are shitty... But whenever I go to a shitty one, I just cross it off this list of clubs that I would go to. Maybe it's because I live near a big city, and I have plenty of clubbing options. But really all it takes is one lucky night, where you find a girl that wants to sleep with you, and then usually that club turns out to be not so bad.

The one constant thing that you always deal with is loud music, and drunkenness, so picking up women involves a lot of physical seduction... and yelling in their ears as loud as you can. If you are good with the sweet talk, and you prefer just trying to charm them, you might prefer picking up chicks at the bar, or a lounge. Clubs work better for more awkward people. Everyone gets typsy and dancey, so that they can be confident, without needing any game.

Clubs can be very intimidating to newcomers. It's not exactly the safest place to socialize, especially if you, or your friends are confrontational drunks. If you stick with it though, that intimidating feeling fades away. You'll eventually come to realize that there is a lot more insecure people trying to look cool, than there are of actually cool people.